Welcome to The Daily Kind, where we help you stay inspired to raise humans ready for anything.
I'm Kirk Wheeler. It's April 27th, 2021. I'm so glad you're here.
When we think about courage, we often think about taking some action or overcoming some huge fear, but courage is not always so obvious. Many times we avoid something because we're simply worried about the outcome. And if we were able to just move forward, we might find that there was nothing to fear in the first place and courage will still be the root.
“Do one thing every day that scares you.” — Eleanor Roosevelt
SFX OF ELEPHANTS
I'll bet that for almost everyone listening to this podcast today, you will not walk out into an open field where a wild elephant is roaming around freely.
Now, imagine this, you decide to meet a friend of yours at a park to catch up. And when they arrive, they are clapping their hands about every 20 seconds or so.
And so you decided to ask why. And then they proceed to tell you that it chases away the elephants. And so you have this perplexed look on your face and you say elephants?... there aren't any elephants here. And their response is, exactly, it works really well. Right?
As silly as this may sound, many times, we're the people clapping, and so are the humans we are raising. Our solutions perpetuate the problems we are facing. So how do we change this?
Well, for one thing, we can try to clap a little less often and see what happens. Maybe that thing you're afraid of, isn't such a big deal after all. And the only way to find out is to take one small step in that direction and see what happens or said another way. Do something every day that scares you.
This reminds me of a great movie with ill Murray. What about Bob? His therapist tells him about taking baby steps and he keeps repeating it over and over throughout the movie. Baby steps, get on a bus, baby steps, get on a bus. It's also the idea behind an amazing children's book called Little One Step by Simon James, spoiler to get through the forest and home to his mama, it takes just one step over and over.
So what's the takeaway? (VO: I hope no one takes away my clapping. I don't want the elephants to come back.)
How can you help the humans you are raising remember that sometimes our solutions to our fears actually keep them alive. And what we need to do is to take small steps to move us forward. As you may be able to tell if you've been listening for a while, I like to remind my kids of very simple ideas, like Little One Step, and I'm always amazed at how stories like this can impart very deep truths about our lives and can resonate over a lifetime.
I hope you find this helpful. Take care of yourself today, hydrate. And remember, there is no perpetual parenting playbook, we're all learning as we go. And with curiosity as our map and the willingness to do one thing every day, that scares us. You can be ready for anything. Good luck. You've got this. I'm rooting for you.