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Welcome to The Daily Kind, where we help you stay inspired to raise humans ready for anything.

I'm Kirk Wheeler. It's April 19th, 2021. I'm so glad you're here.

Many of the lessons we learned when we were younger stay with us as we begin to raise humans of our own. And one of the most important lessons I ever learned growing up was to not be afraid to tell someone what you really want to do. And courage was definitely the root.

“It takes a lot of courage to show your dreams to someone else.”― Erma Bombeck

SFX OF OPEN MIC NIGHT AT A CAFE

During the summer between my eighth and ninth grade year, I had what felt like at the time, a really big decision to make. I'd been playing sports my whole life but I'd also been studying trumpet and playing music for a long time too, and I fell deeply in love with music and thought that was the direction I might want to go.

And at the high school I was going to in Fairfax, Virginia, you could not be in the band and play sports, so I had to choose one or the other. And while I don't remember the whole conversation I had with my family, I do remember being very nervous to tell my dad that I wanted to be in the band and to stop playing football.

And then I remember him being really surprised and a little hurt. He honestly wanted me to do what I wanted to do. In fact, he played trumpet all the way through college and didn't know where I'd ever gotten the idea that he wanted me to pursue a particular path. So I moved forward with band and spent most of my life dedicated to music from songwriting to performing, to recording and mixing records.

Well, fast forward to a few years later, after being in bands for a long time, I had the idea that I wanted to be a singer songwriter. Now this is coming from someone who, when my band decided to do an acapella intro for a song by Queen called Fat Bottom Girls, they politely asked me to move along as opposed to sing along.

But I really wanted to sing my own songs. And so I went down to an open mic in Dallas, Texas, and I signed up and I got on the stage. I gotta say, I was pretty terrible. But after that, I was able to tell people what I wanted to do. And just the fact that I was able to go down there and try to do it on my own, I think goes back to the idea that I learned from being able to share with my family, what I really wanted to do.

Now jump way forward in time, now I'm a parent and my son Wyatt a few years ago had been thinking he wanted to study biology and he decided to switch gears. He fell in love with the theater and acting and improv, and I did my best to encourage him as much as I could, but I'm sure for him to be able to say that out loud took the same amount of courage and bravery that it would take for any of us when we're making a big change like this.

And the way we react in those moments may not always be the way we hope to. I mean, I tried to do my best and I hope I did right by him and the lessons that I learned along the way from my father and the way that he treated me when I told him what I wanted to do, but I'm not sure, but what I can say is I consciously do my best to encourage anyone, to share their dreams out loud to other people, because that's what makes them real. And that's what makes them possible.

So what's the takeaway?  (VO:I won't let anyone take away my dreams.)

How can you help the humans you are raising show their dreams to others? For me, it started by needing to learn the lesson myself and only then was that able to have the space to listen and encourage others to do the same.

Time is the most precious resource that we all have and how we end up spending it is largely based on a few key moments when we're here able to demonstrate the courage to show other people what our dreams are. And from there, it becomes the process of daily effort and building on what came the day before. But the spark, that original moment that we actualize our dreams, able to openly share them with others.

I hope you find this helpful. Be sure to take care of yourself today, drink some water. And remember there is no perpetual parenting playbook. We're all learning as we go. And with curiosity as our map, And the willingness to show others our dreams. We can be ready for anything.

So good luck. You've got this. I'm rooting for you.

With gratitude,

Kirk