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Welcome to The Daily Kind, where we help you stay inspired to raise humans ready for anything.

I'm Kirk Wheeler, it's April 7th, 2021. I'm so glad you're here.

As soon as we begin to talk about courage, we have to acknowledge its counterpart, fear, because if there wasn't something we were afraid of, then we would never need courage in the first place. And as we try to navigate the fear that lives within us, there's a perspective that can be invaluable as we endeavor to make courage the root.

"I'm not afraid of storms, for I'm learning how to sail my ship." -Louisa may Alcott

SFX OF CALM SEA

These are the sounds of a calm sea. But what if a storm came?

SFX OF WAVES AND STORM

Recognizing a storm like this is an opportunity is how we're going to learn to sail our ship effectively. You may have heard another version of this quote, normally attributed to Franklin D Roosevelt. A smooth sea, never made a skilled sailor. It's quite the alliteration. And the idea of learning from storms in our lives is such a critical part of raising a human ready for anything

Quotes like these can help us to remember that storms have been happening for a very long time. This may be the most helpful thing for me as a parent when I find myself or see one of the humans I'm raising, facing a challenge, since the Dawn of humanity, through all kinds of circumstances. many of which I have zero idea of what it must've been like to go through, humanity has been able to learn, adapt, and grow.

And when I think about the struggles that I face every day as a father, staying connected to the wider world of people who have already been on this journey or taking a moment to recognize that humans all over the planet are experiencing some version of the same thing that I am., it gives me perspective. The same way that reframing our challenges as a learning opportunity can shift our perspective.

I know sometimes it can sound like great advice just to change how we look at a situation. And it's much easier said than done when we're in the moment, but even if we can gain just a little bit of space to pull back from the immediacy of the moment and remember that we are part of a continuum, that we are all on a journey where there will be storms, and those who have sailed the seas before us can give us some of the tools we need for the adventure, but it will be up to us to learn how to use them effectively and then build on what has come before my sharing, our understanding with others. So collectively we can create a better future for all of us, one storm at a time.

So what's the takeaway? (VO: Can you take away the sound of thunder? I am not a fan.)

How can you help the humans you are raising understand that there will be storms and they will need to find their courage to brave them? You can remind them it will be much easier to find that courage if they can think of the storm is an opportunity to learn and grow and find out what they're capable of becoming.

I hope you find this helpful, be sure to take care of yourself today, hydrate. And remember, there is no perpetual parenting playbook. We're all learning as we go. And with curiosity as our map and the willingness to learn to sail, we can be ready for anything. So good luck. You've got this. I'm rooting for you.

With gratitude,

Kirk