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Welcome to The Daily Kind, where we help you stay inspired to raise humans ready for anything.

I'm Kirk Wheeler. It's March 22nd, 2021. I'm so glad you're here.

Last month we were talking about failure being the seed, and I brought up the idea of dreaming big and planting Sequoias, and there's something special about Sequoia trees that I wasn't aware of for a long time, their ability to regenerate depends on fire.

There are many reasons for this. But the one I want to talk about today is what that fire does to the soil, where the seeds are planted and how, when we need truth to be the soil, we might just need the power of fire clear the way.

“Land is not merely soil, it is a fountain of energy flowing through a circuit of soils, plants and animals.” - Aldo Leopold


A fire raging through a forest is a terrible thing to witness, living in Southern California I've seen my share of forest fires over the years, and I've had the opportunity to camp in places where the rebirth has already begun to take shape. It's an incredible thing to see nature begin again in places of destruction.

Now without getting too deep into climate change or how we manage our forests, I've been thinking about the way fire can clear the land and reveal soil rich with nutrients, and the way being completely honest about a situation can clear the space between two people and reveal a deeper connection.

Because the same way land is not merely soil, honesty is not merely truth. Sure, we can tell the truth about something, but if the people around us know that we speak honestly, it opens up a flow of energy that allows for connection and possibility.

Still, sometimes it can feel like being honest and telling the truth about a situation will create a huge path of destruction, and in the short term, that might be true. But over time, the seeds that are planted in this new rich soil will grow to be trees with deep roots, connected to a fountain of energy.

Sequoia trees are like this, their seeds need to hit bare mineral soil before they can germinate, and fire clears the forest floor of leaves and debris to make way for these seeds to fall and begin to grow.

So while we worry about what might happen, if let's call it the fire of truth, clears a space, nature has already discovered that it can be the most effective way to grow a forest. I'm not advocating for blind truth telling at all costs and burning down everything to start again. I just see this as a powerful metaphor for how being honest can help us grow and connect to the energy around us.

So what's the takeaway? (VO: Can we take away the sound of fire? It made me a little nervous.)

How can you help the humans you are raising think about telling the truth like they are clearing the way for seeds of trust to grow? You can remind them that sometimes the things we think of as destroyers, like fire and being completely honest are part of the natural rhythm of growth.

And the more they are able to demonstrate that they are honest with everyone, the more energy will be able to flow through all of the systems that they need.

I hope you find this helpful. Be sure to take care of yourself today, hydrate. And remember, there is no perpetual parenting playbook, we're all learning as we go. And with curiosity as our map and the willingness to be honest and tell the truth to clear the soil for the seeds to come, we can be ready for anything.

So good luck. You've got this. I'm rooting for you.

With gratitude,