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Welcome to The Daily Kind, where we help you stay inspired to raise humans ready for anything.

I'm Kirk Wheeler. It's March 17th, 2021. I'm so glad you're here.

One of the interesting things about us as human beings is how much we believe, the first thing we hear about something. If I told you that the cost of bread is going up five times faster than the cost of anything else, it would take a lot of facts and research to dispute this in your own mind. Even right now, more than likely if you're wondering if it's true, it's not. Or if it is, we can call it a lucky guess. Sometimes it can be hard to find the soil for truth.

"A lie can run around the world before the truth has got its boots on." - Terry Pratchett

SOUNDS OF A CARNIVAL WITH MUSIC PLAYING

Imagine a carnival game where instead of guessing your age or your weight, I promised that I could guess the percentage of your brains capacity that you are currently using. Are you thinking that number would be 10%?

Most people think this is an accurate estimate of the amount of brain power that each of us is using at a given time. The truth is it's not an accurate estimate. We use nearly all of the power of our brain to do many things. Do we keep some level of reserve available maybe, but we are definitely not just using 10%. The brain is doing so much more than we're still even aware of. It's one of those places where science has such a long way to go.

But this doesn't mean that our brains are full or that our ability to learn is in any way diminished by this. We can absolutely grow what we are capable of by leaps and bounds, but it takes effort and consistency. Think about the idea of getting 1% better every day. If you were to do this for around 70 days, you would double what you're capable of. And you're going to think that's true, but you can check the math out, and I think it's pretty close.

Another way I heard someone talk about this recently is to imagine yourself in some future moment and then ask this question. How has your capacity changed? I love this phrasing. It's like we're a potter working on a potter's wheel and shaping the same amount of clay in a wider or taller direction to give a bowl, let's say more depth or height and therefore more capacity.

So what's the takeaway? (VO: Did you just take away some of my brain power?)

How can you help the humans you are raising realize that some of the myths we hear about what we're capable of are just not true. We should not let anything hold us back from trying to become the best versions of ourselves. This does not mean that we'll all be able to play in the NBA. Some games are designed for certain abilities, but it does mean that we are much more capable than we realize, if we're willing to put in the work.

I hope you find this helpful. Be sure to take care of yourself today, drink some water. And remember there is no perpetual parenting playbook for all learning as we go, and with curiosity as our map and a willingness to believe that our capacity can change over time, we can be ready for anything.

So good luck. You've got this. I'm rooting for you.

With gratitude,

Kirk