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Welcome to The Daily Kind, where we help you stay inspired to raise humans ready for anything.

I'm Kirk Wheeler, it's March 9th, 2021. I'm so glad you're here.

Maybe you've heard some of these phrases, looks can be deceiving, don't judge a book by its cover, all that glitters isn't gold. There are many ways that we express this universal human truth. It can be hard to know what is on the inside, if we make judgements based only on what we're able to see on the outside.

I've been trying to think about a way to express this in sound all day. So we're going to do an experiment and see how it goes. Honest feedback is always appreciated, after all truth is the soil

“It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.”
― Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

Fred Rogers had this quote in the original French on his wall. He knew that there was more to the people in his neighborhood and kept this nearby as a reminder.

In an effort to continue the audio storytelling on this podcast, I wanted to find a way to share this idea, sonically. At first I thought about water and how, when you're walking near the sea or beside a river, there's the sound of the surface, but much more going on underneath, but that didn't seem quite right. So here's what I came up with.

Imagine that you've always dreamed of visiting some French palace with incredible gardens, so you learn a little French, and as soon as you're able to afford the trip, (of course in a post COVID world) you travel to France, check into the hotel, you get a good nights sleep, and the next day you're up early and walking down the street in a town in France, headed to visit this beautiful building.

And along the way, you see an old stone church with some graffiti on the side, doors are closed and you quickly pass by and forget all about it on your way to other destinations.

Now imagine that you're walking down that same street. And instead of passing by this church, for some reason, you get intensely curious about one of the broken statues near the front of the building.

So as you're looking, someone passes by and you ask them in the little bit of French that you know what happened and they actually don't speak that much English and they give you an answer, but you really don't understand it, but they do invite you inside for a moment.

And as the large wooden doors open you begin to hear something magical as you round the corner, you head into the sanctuary, where you witness a small choir that has been singing all along..

This is what I imagine going on inside of all of us, a choir, a symphony, reggae, rock, hip hop, jazz, electro soul, you name it. This is the content of our character, our moral and emotional universe in full bloom, deep inside of us. But we rarely ever think about this going on inside another person. We imagine it in ourselves and maybe those closest to us, but it's inside every one of us, if we're only willing to be open to the idea that it's there.

So what's the takeaway? (VO: I was hoping you would take us away to France)

How can you help us humans you are raising see past the cover of the book, see past the broken stone church on the side of the road and help them recognize that what is essential is invisible to the eye, but can be witnessed when we open our hearts to others.

It's not easy. We all need help remembering this universal truth. That's why all of these phrases are out there. But they can serve us. Maybe you have one of them on your wall right now. Maybe it's in French.

I hope you find this helpful. Be sure to take care of yourself today, hydrate. And remember, there is no perpetual parenting playbook, we're all learning as we go. And with curiosity as our map and a willingness to look past the appearances, we can be ready for anything.

So good luck. You've got this. I'm rooting for you.

With gratitude,

Kirk