Welcome to The Daily Kind, where we help you stay inspired to raise humans ready for anything.
I'm Kirk Wheeler, it's March 8th, 2021, I'm so glad you're here.
As we continue to explore the idea of truth being the soil, it may help to think about all of the places where the idea of being truthful can show up for us in our daily lives, and some of the words that come up for me are honest, authentic, true, and a big one is trust.
Whether we are trying to find out when a homework assignment is due, or trying to navigate a deadline at work that we just won't be able to meet, we often find that we need to believe people and people need to believe us. And trust happens when truth is the soil.
"Trust is consistency over time." – Jeff Weiner
These days, most people get their weather forecast from a smartphone or from some automated service. Well, let's imagine that you're trying to learn what the weather is going to be each day, way back in the 1990s, you may have picked up a newspaper. (Extra Extra Read all about it.
But more than likely you would have turned on the TV . Time now for you your now for your local weather forecast. Let's imagine that every day for six months, the weather forecast on this channel is accurate. But one day, it's just wrong and you wind up in the rain without an umbrella (Uh Oh...)
No big deal. You don't melt. And the next day you turn to the same channel to get your weather. If that was the only blip and they were consistently accurate from there on, you would continue to turn to them for the information you need. Trust is consistency over time.
But imagine that they were wrong again the next day. And then the next. You would more than likely find a new source of information that you could trust to be accurate. (VO)
And even if we're not always aware of it, we pay very close attention to these patterns in the people we interact with every day, and the more truthful they are with us, the more we trust them, but it doesn't take much to break that trust.
So we need to learn to recognize when we are the ones who are letting others down and course correct as fast as we can to keep the integrity of the relationship intact.
So what's the takeaway? (VO: I hope no one takes away my umbrella.)
How can you help the humans that you are raising remember that the choices they're making every day to tell the truth will help them build trust with the people they care about most. We all make mistakes and have chosen to be untruthful at some point in time, but the sooner that we are able to course correct, get back on track, maybe even apologize, the better chance we have of keeping that trust alive.
Now, this is a good moment to remember that others will get off track as well. And a little forgiveness can go a long way, but the classic fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me, does apply in many circumstances. So be sure to pay attention to the difference.
I hope you find this helpful. Be sure to take care of yourself today, drink some water. And remember there is no perpetual parenting playbook. We're all learning as we go. And with curiosity as our map and a willingness to continue to show up day after day and tell the truth, we can be ready for anything.
So good luck. You've got this. I've been rooting for