Welcome to The Daily Kind, where we help you stay inspired to raise humans ready for anything.
I'm Kirk Wheeler. It's February 19th, 2021. I'm so glad you're here.
Maybe you've heard the saying, failure is the greatest teacher. Sometimes it might be, sometimes it might not, but it's a natural part of being human. And sometimes we can take the seed that comes from failure and bury it too deep or neglect it. Sometimes it becomes nothing at all, but other times, It's just been waiting for the right time to sprout.
"The difference between a good garden and a bad garden is a fortnight." Bob Flowerdew
Did you ever fall asleep in class? I know I did, especially in college. And when I woke up, I always had this feeling that everyone was looking at me.
No one ever was, well, maybe the person next to me noticed a little bit, but not really. And experiences like this can shape us. I use this example because it's one we can all relate to. Even in the world of remote learning and zoom school, there are those who are getting course corrected for zoning out or clearly watching YouTube in another browser tab.
And when these things happen to us or we see them happen to other people, the growth might happen immediately. We could take action right away, or it might take years to show itself. How long can the seeds of failure wait until they begin to sprout? Maybe thousands of years.
There were date Palm seeds discovered in the Masada fortress in Israel that were over 2000 years old. They existed through dry weather and survived the heat. And just over a decade ago, one of these seeds germinated, becoming the oldest known seed to ever do so, but that's just one we know about. There are probably others. I like to think about these kinds of seeds, like I do the writings of all the philosophers and poets that have survived say the last 2000 years, the same as that seed, that are still bearing fruit for us today in the lessons they teach by the examples in lives of others. Those whose minds and bodies were not all that different from our own.
So what's the takeaway. (I was wondering how long the take-away seed would take to sprout.)
The humans you are raising will have so many things happen to them along their path that you may never know about. But you can help them learn to make sense of the experiences they have, whether they share the details or not. You can do this in a few ways. Tell them a story about something that happened to you and how it impacted your life, both positive and negative.
Share the stories of others and tell them what you learned from them. And like the seed that doesn't germinate for a very long time. You may never know what some of these stories will mean to them in the future. But by recognizing the seeds, we can help them grow when they're ready to do so.
And for those of you who are still wondering what a fortnight is?
Nope. It's not the game. It's the passing of 14 days. It comes from the old English term, meaning 14 nights fortnight. Now, you know.
I hope you find this helpful and be sure to take care of yourself today, drink some water. And remember there is no perpetual parenting playbook. We're all learning as we go. And with curiosity as our map and a willingness to wait for those seeds to germinate, we can be ready for anything.
So good luck. You've got this. I'm rooting for you.