I'm Kirk Wheeler, It's February 10th, 2021. I'm so glad you're here.
Games are how we learn. And from the very first game of peek-a-boo, to Pokemon, to the game of pick-a-college, games are everywhere. And if we want to get really good at any one of these games, for most of us, failure will be the seed.
"If you argue for your limitations, they are yours." –Richard Bach
Does this sound familiar? You're playing a game for the first time. It could be a video game. It could be a board game. It could be any one of the many sports involving a ball of some kind.
You learn the rules and then you try to play, and you suck. You're terrible. I mean, really bad. But for each of us, there is some game out there, that when we play it, no matter how bad we are, we keep coming back and trying to get better.
Now, there are lots of games we give up on, even ones we might be pretty good at, but we just don't have a passion for them. So we argue for our limitations and they become ours.
But natural curiosity is a strong force. And if we can refine it, and learn how to point it in the direction that best serves us, then we can become more, well, more. More of who we are, more inspiring to others, more empathetic to those on the journey with us and those on their own paths.
The cliche of a parent living out their own failed dreams through the lives of their child is a cliche for a reason. Many parents fall into this trap without even realizing it. It can be a fine line to walk. I remember the day that our son Wyatt took his first martial arts class after trying all kinds of sports he didn't like, things I grew up with like football, but his eyes lit up and he wanted to keep coming back failures and all.
And these are the kinds of sparks we want to nurture. Because these are the places where we learn how to learn the best.
Questions of the day, questions to think about. What are the things that you are willing to suck at for a long time, but keep coming back to? What are the things you see your kids trying to get better at, over and over again, when time disappears and they don't come looking for you and asking for food?
Notice these moments. Pay attention to them. Learn to love the process and failure won't just be the seed, it will become the tree, and soon you'll be standing in a whole forest of talents and abilities, with no limitations in sight.
I hope you find this helpful take care of yourself today. Drink some water. And remember there is no perpetual parenting playbook.
We're all learning as we go. And with curiosity is our map and a willingness to suck for awhile. We can be ready for anything.
So good luck. You've got this. I'm rooting for you.