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Welcome to The Daily Kind, where we help you stay inspired to raise humans ready for anything. I'm Kirk Wheeler. It's February 5th, 2021. I'm so glad you're here.

Last night, I asked my best friend, Michael, for some feedback on this show. "Feedback is a gift", is a phrase we hear a lot, but it can be hard to take if you're not prepared for it. In this case, I was, he's been giving me valuable feedback since middle school, and he had some amazing ideas on how to make this show better. And as soon as I heard them, I wanted to rerecord the episode. I just finished Failure is the seed.

"Lucy: You learn more when you lose. Charlie Brown: Well then I must be the smartest person in the world."–Charles M. Schultz

When I started this podcast, I imagined it to be an experiment, and every good experiment needs to test the hypothesis and collect some data. And then try again if it doesn't work as expected.  If you're looking to get feedback, as far as questions go, there is one with a lot of power. If you're willing to listen and act on what you hear and if you don't use it too often, you'll get wildly different answers based on what is top of mind for the person you're asking.

In a previous episode, I talked about our daughter Elodie and her request that I knock on the door and wait for her to answer and then go into the room, as opposed to just knocking and walking right in. So last weekend, I asked her the same question and I reminded her about the previous question. (So it didn't feel like I was trying to do some dad jujitsu.) And I said, if there was one thing you would like me to stop doing right now, what would it be? She thought about it for a minute and gave me a really good answer.

Basically it was to stop doing my version of the "Pulling the Dad card" or the, "Because I said so." Typically when we're reviewing her homework, she'll ask me why I need to see something, or if I trust her. And I will tend to answer with, because I'm the Dad, as if that were a complete thought in its own right.

So I'm going to try to curb this one too. And if she asks me, I'm going to try not to give her the shortest possible answer to move us forward. But the truth, sometimes it's working sometimes it's not, but I'm willing to try.

And the reason I bring it up here is because learning from feedback is hard, but never getting the feedback in the first place is harder.

So over the next few weeks of this show, I'll be experimenting with formats. Some sound effects, some different versions of what I hope can bring the most value to you.  SFX - "This is the takeaway" (Spoken in a movie trailer voiceover voice) Ask the people in your life, including the humans you are raising for feedback and see what happens. You might be surprised, in the worst case, you can always go back to the classic, because I said so,

If you have any feedback on what's working and what's not working in this podcast, please let me know. My email is kirk at kind and curious dot com. After all failure is the seed.

(Sound of a seed sprouting and a vine growing) That's the sound of a plant growing.

I hope you find this helpful. Be sure to take care of yourself today, drink some water. And remember there is no perpetual parenting playbook. We're all learning as we go. And with curiosity as our map and a willingness to take some feedback, we can be ready for anything.

So good luck. You've got this. I'm rooting for you.

With gratitude,

Kirk