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I'm Kirk Wheeler. It's February 1st, 2021. I'm so glad you're here.
Today's the first day of a new month and in the land Kind and Curious, that means that we are going to start using a new value to frame our conversations. And this is one of the most important ideas for us to continue to be able to show up for our families the way we want to. For me there have been many times when I have not lived up to my own expectations, or I have outright failed at being the person I wanted to be. But over and over again, I have found that if I'm willing to get back up, willing to try again – and again – and again, that eventually I will see the sprout of what I hoped would begin to rise in the first place.
And failure is the seed.
"Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit" – Napoleon Hill
My favorite movies are all origin stories and they all have the same plot. From Rocky, to Inside Out, to really any story, and there are many of them, where someone falls down hard and gets back up. Most of the time it's the compressed version of the hero's journey that Joseph Campbell spoke so well about in his book, The Hero With a Thousand Faces.
These stories resonate with so many of us, because we see ourselves in them and they all have to do with some kind of failure, whether they're caused by outside forces or those within. We root for them because we hope others are rooting for us.
So if we are trying to raise a human ready for anything, showing them how to get back up when they fall down, may be the most important lesson we can share with them, but it's not just something we can say. Again, we learn more from watching what people do, than from listening to them tell us what we should do. So over the next month, I have many stories to tell about not only my personal failures as a parent, but other stories of resilience and grace and getting up one more time than we have fallen down. But today I just wanted to share this idea that failure is the most natural way we learn.
We are experimenters from the very start, when we are trying to walk, we fall down, but we get back up. Until it becomes one of the most natural things many of us do. And I say many of us because there are some of us who never have the opportunity to learn to walk, but we all have the opportunity to learn and grow in the ways that are unique to us.
Still along the way, many of us get the wrong messages as we begin to try braver and braver things, we are told that it's too hard, that we're too short. We don't have enough A or B or C, but what if we were told that it was possible? What if we could learn to tell ourselves it was possible, and then become the kind of person that could demonstrate to others that we can do hard things. This is how we get better in both big and small ways.
By leveraging failure as the seed for the next step forward.
I hope you find this helpful. And remember, there is no perpetual parenting playbook. We're all learning as we go. And with curiosity as our map and failure as the seed, we can be ready for anything.
So good luck today. You've got this. See you tomorrow.
Curious about a growth mindset?
This book had a huge impact on me, as well as people like Satya Nadella, the CEO of Microsoft. While the idea of a growth mindset has been growing over the last decade, I am sure there are still many people who it has not reached. Maybe that's you, if so, I highly recommend this book.